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Ideas & Ideals of Engagement Photos

I had an epiphany last night while I was speaking to my husband about engagement photos. Many people that I know say they look at their engagement photos much more often than they look at their wedding photos. Being someone who didn’t even really want to do an engagement shoot (but I still surprised Andrew with a shoot at Disney because I knew he wanted them) I don’t look at ours too often. The setting doesn’t really reflect our personality aside from one or two of the shots, I look like a totally different person since I was around 100 pounds heavier, and there were some AWKWARD poses. Andrew and I don’t really spend too much time whispering sweet nothings to each other in the grass. We generally have heated discussions about the world while exploring a new downtown area. Or we play a lot of BioShock.

While we were discussing this it finally dawned on me. These photos showcase a moment that has changed the course of your life (probably), you’re at a photo session with the explicit reason of celebrating a commitment being made, and you’re still in clothing that you might regularly wear. In short, you look amazing but still like yourself, and you’re crazy in love *cue Beyonce*.


Much of the time when you come across a post about engagement photo ideas it’s either a top ten list or outfit inspiration. This is NOT one of those posts – it’s a little more philosophical/ranty. As I said I was not happy with our engagement photos (although our wedding photos are a different story, yay Mikkel!) and I don’t want others to make the same mistakes we did! So keep on readin’ for some of my biggest considerations for engagement shoots: the WHERE and the WEAR!

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When you and your significant other spend time together, what do you like to do? Do you and your significant other love hiking together? Then maybe you should choose a local park or forest with huge trees (dressed a little nicer than you might normally for hiking, of course) and have your photos taken there. If you and your SO love to go to cafes downtown, then have your photographer to follow you around while you have a coffee at a local cafe at a cute little table. Doing things that are natural to you will make you feel way more comfortable in front of the lens and help keep the edge off that “There is someone creeping around taking our photo do I look ok??” feeling.

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Your photographer can make you look amazing anywhere but these photos can tell the “Story of Us” without even trying, just by showcasing what you two do when you spend time together. These photos are you in love, with the excitement of being freshly engaged, and they are YOU! You don’t generally wear a wedding dress everyday, right? (Although mad respect if you do, and I’m also jealous.) Think of an outfit that you feel amazing in and wear it. Or use the shoot as an excuse to go out and find that fabric expression of what you feel like when you’re with your SO. I mean, a new outfit for this will be way more wearable when you go out than a wedding dress will be 😉

Your wedding photos will be a reflection of the love that your families have for you and a celebration of the life you’re about to start – but your engagement photos will be a reflection of the unique connection that you share with your soon to be spouse. The secrets that you two have together, the way you look in cute clothes when you walk down the street together holding hands, and the promise that has recently been made to spend the rest of your lives together.

So, lovely people, did you have engagement photos done? Tell me your where & wear!!

Wishing you a myriad of fabric expressions,


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  • Reply Mikkel

    Haha you would have LOVED your engagement photos if I had done them! (Not having seen your esession pics in depth but I did like a lot of them!) 😉 Hope you LOVE your wedding photos just as much as I do! Great post, girl! xo

    June 27, 2014 at 4:06 pm
  • Reply kathy/NorthCarolina

    This was such a great post…I love the idea of taking photos in a spot that represents the way you spend time together. Fabulous!

    July 9, 2014 at 10:30 pm
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